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Judy Duque: A ‘fun and loving’ mother, parenting expert and ‘people person’


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Mrs. Duque in 2008

Judith S. Duque, a noted marriage and family therapist with a long career in the Los Altos area, died Dec. 29 after a long battle with cancer. Mrs. Duque was 75.

Born in Los Angeles to Susan and Frederick Stadelman, Mrs. Duque attended Marlborough School for girls from 1951 to 1955 and graduated in 1959 from UC Berkeley, where she was a Kappa Kappa Gamma.

She married Henry M. Duque in 1959. They moved from Los Angeles to Los Altos Hills in 1974.

She earned a degree in marriage and family therapy from the University of San Francisco and was active in the Los Altos Library Volunteers, the Bay Area Breast Cancer Network and the Junior League of Los Angeles and Northern California.

Mrs. Duque operated a private counseling practice in Mountain View. She wrote the “Keys to Parenting” column for the Town Crier for more than 10 years.

Mrs. Duque’s daughter Carolyn remembered her mother as “fun and loving – a wonderful listener.”

“She was extraordinarily faithful to her family,” Carolyn said.

Carolyn recalled Mrs. Duque making the extra effort to attend her grandchildren’s sporting events and other activities. She would frequently send family members clippings of articles on subjects she felt were important for them to know. Carolyn said Mrs. Duque always signed her notes “YMLY” – Your Mother Loves You.

An avid traveler, Mrs. Duque ventured to South America and Africa, but she was up for any journey.

“If you offered to take her anywhere, her bag was packed,” Carolyn said.

A people person in every sense of the phrase, Carolyn said Mrs. Duque was interesting and interested in others.

“People just gravitated to her,” she said.

“She was such a character,” added son-in-law Daryl Bedrosian. “She had a young attitude about her. There were so many people she was connected with and knew.”

Daryl also described Mrs. Duque as a storyteller who knew a lot of history.

Mrs. Duque, who was first diagnosed with cancer approximately 25 years ago, remained in remission for several years before it returned in August 2009. She didn’t let the disease slow her down. As late as last summer, she accompanied family members on trips to Carmel and Italy.

“She had such a strong spirit,” Carolyn said. “It’s a testament to her positive attitude.”

Mrs. Duque is survived by Henry, her husband of 53 years; children Adrienne (Steve), Carolyn (David), Susan (Daryl) and Rick (Cindy); grandchildren Tripp, Tristan, RJ, Kathryn, David and Hunter; and her dog Aruba. She is also survived by sister Katrina (Chris) Cord, sisters-in-law Mary Delia Duque and Bitsy (Dick) Hotaling, as well as many nieces, nephews and friends.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to causes Mrs. Duque supported – the Bay Area Breast Cancer Network or Sacred Heart Nativity Schools of San Jose. The family also encourages donations of books to the Los Altos Library in memory of Mrs. Duque.

Services have been held.

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