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LASD approves advisory committee expansion

Los Altos School District trustees approved a resolution Aug. 25 to expand their Facilities Master Plan Advisory Committee, which provides the district with advice on future facilities projects.

The resolution broadened the membership of the committ...

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Schools

Program turns parents into school-day advocates

Program turns parents into school-day advocates


Courtesy of Sonia Maiello.
Project Cornerstone parent reader Sonia Maiello regales a Montclaire classroom.

Parent volunteers at Montclaire Elementary School in Los Altos are gearing up for the seventh year of Project Cornerstone, a countywide YMCA ...

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Community

'Beach Blanket Babylon' star entertains Rotary Club

'Beach Blanket Babylon' star entertains Rotary Club



“Beach Blanket Babylon” star Tammy Nelson entertains members of the Rotary Club of Los Altos Aug. 21. Jerry Tomanek/Special to the Town Crier

Wearing 300-pound hats as she belts out clever, zany and often bawdy songs, Tammy Nelson stars in th...

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Sports

Eagles, Spartans gear up for gridiron season

Eagles, Spartans gear up for gridiron season


Photos by Ellie Van Houtte/Town Crier
Los Altos and Mountain View highs have new starting quarterbacks this year, with Kyle Gnoud, above, taking over for the Eagles.

If any game defined the 2013 football seasons for Los Altos and Mountain View highs...

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You may have already won!: A Piece of My Mind

There is something irresistible in the idea of buried treasure brought to light. We love to hear about the dusty picture in the attic that turns out to be a genuine Rembrandt, the stock certificate in the bottom of the neglected safe deposit box tha...

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Special Sections

A Chrysler comeback New 200C is proof the company is relevant again

A Chrysler comeback New 200C is proof the company is relevant again


Courtesy of Chrysler
The 2015 Chrysler 200C offers a 295-horsepower V-6 engine and the SafeTec package. The interior features comfortable front seats, lots of legroom and a restyled center-console area.

The reborn Chrysler Corp. is a success story ...

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Business

Modern art exhibit comes to Los Altos: Passerelle teams with Christie's on pop-up venture

Modern art exhibit comes to Los Altos: Passerelle teams with Christie's on pop-up venture


images courtesy of Christie’s 2014
Christie’s auction house will host a pop-up exhibit Sept. 10-18 in downtown Los Altos. Works on display will include Roy Lichtenstein’s “Girl in Mirror,” valued at $2 to 3 million and a 2013 untitled work by Korak...

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Books

‘The Humans’ transcends alien genre to glean human insights

‘The Humans’ transcends alien genre to glean human insights


A good story about aliens is always great fun to read – after all, it’s only by attempting to understand the human race from another perspective that we can see ourselves more objectively.

But readers who might be tempted to dismiss ye...

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People

SARA MITTELMAN

Sara Mittelman, 97, was born May 10, 1917 and died August 15, 2014 at Menorah Medical Center. She was born in Pilica, Poland and came to the USA in 1950. Sara was a Holocaust survivor who lost her entire family during the war. She was one of the olde...

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Travel

Visiting Vancouver Western Canada's premier destination has much to offer

Visiting Vancouver Western Canada's premier destination has much to offer


Photos courtesy of TOURISM VANCOUVER
Outdoor adventures abound in and around Vancouver, including a boat excursion into Horseshoe Bay and a jaunt on the Cliffwalk at Capilano Suspension Bridge Park, among the most popular attractions in British Col...

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Stepping Out

Los Altos Stage Company attaches itself to

Los Altos Stage Company attaches itself to "Trailer"


COURTESY OF LOS ALTOS STAGE COMPANY
The cast of “The Great American Trailer Park Musical” includes, clockwise from left, Mylissa Malley (Lin), Christina Bolognini (Pickles) and Vanessa Alvarez (as Betty).

Los Altos Stage Company launches its 19t...

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Spiritual Life

Spiritual Briefs

Meditation group meets at Foothills Congregational

A Weekly Meditation Practice group meets 7-8:15 a.m. Tuesdays at Foothills Congregational Church, 461 Orange Ave., Los Altos.

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Magazine

Los Altos Hills home showcases resort-inspired living

Los Altos Hills home showcases resort-inspired living


Courtesy of Spectrum Interior Design
In place of a more traditional fireplace, this modern living room features a linear-flame firebox that emits heat while offering a sculpturelike design element.

After traveling the world and visiting a host o...

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Who will protect the children from their parents?: Confronting Domestic Violence

What a series of unfortunate events for children in our county – and in our country – recently.

Veronica Gonzalez spanked her 12-year-old daughter hard enough with a wooden spoon to cause bruising. The beating was severe enough to prompt social workers to report her to the State Department of Justice’s child abuse database with a “substantiated” abuse determination. And a trial court judge upheld that determination.

Then the Sixth District Court of Appeal in San Jose reversed the child abuse determination made by the Santa Clara County Department of Social Services.

Why? One reason was because parents do have a right to impose physical discipline on their children (disturbingly referred to as a “privilege”), and the underlying hearings never addressed the existence of this right. The finding against the mother was, therefore, determined to have been made and upheld in proceedings that were fundamentally unfair.

However, the appeals court justified its ruling by other means: namely, that other forms of punishment like grounding and confiscating the daughter’s cellphone had failed, her behavior was worsening and the mother’s intent was to discipline, not harm, the child.

I am reminded of abusers who tell their wives as they beat them: I didn’t hit you that hard, I didn’t mean to hurt you, I wouldn’t

have to do this if you hadn’t said that/done that/stepped out of line, etc. The difference with adults is that they are told in court that there is no excuse for abuse – period.

What recourse does a child have with regard to violence perpetrated by his or her parents? And if the wooden spoon doesn’t work, what’s the next step? A strap? A whip? A fist?

Once you begin to incorporate violence into a relationship with someone you supposedly love, you have contaminated it and started to teach that violence and love go together. No matter how pure our motive, where did we ever get the notion that it was OK to beat our children with a wooden spoon?

What are we teaching our loved ones about healthy relationships and healthy ways to discipline when we hit? Are we not teaching them to equate love with violence?

That’s what Nick Ladany, dean of education and psychological counseling at Santa Clara University, said. Ladany claims that spanking is the “last resort of the incompetent. If we’re not competent as parents, then we do resort to violence.”

We learn what love is not just by words, but also by behaviors. How do we show love? A kiss, a hug, an embrace. How do we show its opposite? A blow, a beating, violence. That can’t also be love.

You can’t jam two mutually exclusive concepts together – love and violence – in a single word and call it “discipline.” Even toddlers are taught the rule: “No hitting. Use your words.”

We expect that parental figures will protect their children. When guardians fail, when courts rule unwisely, when parents lobby for the right to hit/hurt/bruise/do violence in the name of discipline, who will protect the children from their parents?

Ruth Patrick, M.A., is a domestic violence consultant with the Los Altos Community Foundation’s nonprofit WomenSV program, which received the 2013 award for Outstanding Community Service from the Santa Clara County Psychological Association. For more information, visit losaltoscf.org/womensv.

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