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Loyola Corners economics, traffic rise to top of planning concerns

Loyola Corners economics, traffic rise to top of planning concerns

Alicia Castro/Town Crier
Loyola Bridge construction parallel to the Fremont Avenue frontage may lead officials to alter circulation plans for the area.

Loyola Corners stakeholders last week mulled the issues that will likely shape the area&rsquo...

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Schools

LAHS Green Team commemorates Earth Week

LAHS Green Team commemorates Earth Week


Traci Newell/Town Crier
Los Altos High School Green Team members, above, quiz their classmates about water conservation. The club distributed plants as prizes during the club’s Earth Week activities.

Members of the Los Altos High School Green...

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Community

Local pianist, 11, slated to perform Saturday at statewide competition

Local pianist, 11, slated to perform Saturday at statewide competition


Courtesy of the Cha family
Spencer Cha plays piano at a Santa Clara University recital. The sixth-grader also enjoys soccer, tennis, golf and skiing.

Spencer Cha has come a long way since he first sat down at the piano at age 2.

“I remem...

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Sports

Spartans net second place, eye top prize next season

Spartans net second place, eye top prize next season


Megan V. Winslow/Town Crier
Jeremy Hsu, Mountain View High’s top singles player, competes against Pinewood Thursday. The Spartans won the match 7-0.

With freshmen playing the top three spots in singles, the future of the Mountain View High boy...

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Los Altos at a leadership crossroads: Editorial

Don’t look now, but there could be some major changes ahead regarding how the Los Altos city government is run.

The current city council has the opportunity to hire a new city manager in the wake of Marcia Somers’ recent resignation. Fur...

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Special Sections

How to personalize the wedding bar

How to personalize the wedding bar


Christine Moore/Special to the Town Crier
A seasonal signature cocktail adds interest beyond the standard wedding bar’s spirits and mixers. Focus on one set of fresh ingredients, such as blueberries, blackberries and mint for a dose of budget...

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Business

Farmers prepare to market season's bounty

Farmers prepare to market season's bounty


Alicia Castro/Town Crier
Journeyman farmer Jen Friedlander waters Hidden Villa’s greenhouse plants, which will grow stronger in the controlled indoor environment before being transferred to the field outdoors.

Around Hidden Villa, the gree...

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People

BUOL JOANNE DOUGHERTY

BUOL JOANNE DOUGHERTY

1930-2016

Heaven gained a beautiful angel today. Our beloved mother’s blessed life ended in her Los Altos home surrounded by her loving family on April 18, 2016.

Buol Joanne Dougherty was born Sept. 28, 1930 in Chicago. At the age of two, M...

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Stepping Out

'Catch' comes to conclusion LA Stage Co. comedy  ends run this weekend

'Catch' comes to conclusion LA Stage Co. comedy ends run this weekend


Richard Mayer/Special to the Town Crier
Bryan Moriarty, left, stars as Yossarian and John Stephen King plays the Psychiatrist in Los Altos Stage Company’s “Catch-22.”

Los Altos Stage Company’s presentation of “Catch...

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Spiritual Life

Transition from child to teen is hard on parents

Parents have a penchant for saying four words to their sons and daughters when they walk in the door after school - "How was your day?"

If the son or daughter happens to be a teenager, he or she usually dodges the question with a mumbled "whatever"-type response that often leaves parents feeling bad about their relationship with their children.

Dr. Michael Riera, who spoke at the Circle of Support Breakfast May 10, said understanding the dynamic of how teenagers think, act and feel can provide parents with some control over the interactions they have with their children.

"Children operate on a different clock from us - this leads to rough interactions at home," Riera said.

Riera, author of "Staying Connected to Your Teenager" (Perseus, 2003), said that when teenagers come home from school, they are just beginning to process their day. When they retreat to their rooms, they seek their own form of adolescent meditation through music. Only after 10 minutes in the loud solace of Green Day or Dashboard Confessional can they begin to answer the question, internally, of how their day was.

Riera said parents should encourage their children to take the time to process their day.

"Always ask them how their day was, because they will get upset if you don't ask," he said. "But don't expect a real answer yet. Tell them, 'Why don't you go to your room and relax?'"

When the son or daughter comes down to dinner, he or she will have had proper time to process the day and will be more at ease than when he or she walked through the door. Riera said there is a good chance then that the teen will begin telling the parent about his or her day.

Parents must understand that when their children become teenagers, parents transition from "manager" of their children's lives to "consultant" of their lives, he said.

"Being consultant is not about being friends with them," Riera said. "For our kids, we need to be able to read between the lines."

Riera said parents need to learn how to minimize their child's self-consciousness, recognize their new level of thinking, help them build their integrity and praise them on their road to entitlement.

He said that consequences for bad behavior should involve children doing something to make the situation right. For example, if the parent has been up until midnight waiting for their son who broke curfew, the son should have to wash the car the next morning while the parents sleep in. Riera said this type of atonement is more effective punishment for the teens than taking something away.

The fourth annual Circle of Support Breakfast benefited Family and Children Services, a non-profit organization whose mission is to build strong, safe and self-sufficient individuals, families and communities. The organization serves Santa Clara and San Mateo counties by providing mental health and psychiatric care, life-skills preparation, substance abuse treatment, domestic violence intervention, family counseling and financial literacy and family loan services to those in need.

In Los Altos, Family and Children Services provides counseling services at Los Altos High School and Montclaire Elementary School.

Los Altos residents Garner Kelly, Alice Nuzzo and Elizabeth Stewart were on the Circle of Support committee, which participated in planning the breakfast. Two tables at the breakfast, held at the Crowne Plaza CabaÃÆ'±a in Palo Alto, were filled with donors and supporters from Los Altos and Los Altos Hills.

For more information on Family and Children Services, visit www.fcservices.org. For more information on Riera, visit www.mikeriera.com.

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