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LASD trustee submits resignation

Los Altos School District Trustee Tammy Logan announced at the June 13 board meeting her intention to resign from the board.

Logan, who has served on the board for six years, cited personal reasons for her departure and added that she is resigning...

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Schools

Kick, Lead, and Dream marks 10 years of inspiring youth

Kick, Lead, and Dream marks 10 years of inspiring youth


Megan V. Winslow/Town Crier
Campers at the Kick, Lead, and Dream summer camp pile on their coach, bottom, in green shirt. The relationships among campers and their coaches is a special element of the camp, which encourages positivity, leadership and...

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Community

Free summer concerts on tap Thursdays in Los Altos, Mtn. View

Free summer concerts on tap Thursdays in Los Altos, Mtn. View


Courtesy of the Peelers’ Facebook page
The Peelers, shown here in action, have the distinction of being scheduled to play at both the Los Altos and Mountain View summer concert series.

The warm air will be crackling with the sounds of live music...

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Letters to the Editor

Land purchase is best option for school district

The Los Altos School District Board of Trustees made a decision to pursue the purchase of an additional school site at its June 13 board meeting.

While we are excited about the possibilities for an ...

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Business

Beauty for the boardroom: Los Altos startup styles for work, after hours

Beauty for the boardroom: Los Altos startup styles for work, after hours


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The Los Altos-based BFab app builds on Silicon Valley singularities to style everything from participants in an Indian wedding, above, to business leaders going on camera.

Los Altos resident Sharon Cimring met business partner Margo...

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People

DR. BILL B. MAY

DR. BILL B. MAY

September 2, 1935 – June 6, 2016 Los Altos Hills 

Bill Bruce May, beloved husband, father, and grandfather, passed away peacefully at age 80 on June 6th, 2016, with his family at his side. He was born in Sturgis, South Dakota to parents John ...

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News

LASD trustee submits resignation

Los Altos School District Trustee Tammy Logan announced at the June 13 board meeting her intention to resign from the board.

Logan, who has served on the board for six years, cited personal reasons for her departure and added that she is resigning at this time so that voters in November can selec...

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Business

Beauty for the boardroom: Los Altos startup styles for work, after hours

Beauty for the boardroom: Los Altos startup styles for work, after hours

Courtesy of BFab
The Los Altos-based BFab app builds on Silicon Valley singularities to style everything from participants in an Indian wedding, above, to business leaders going on camera.

Los Altos resident Sharon Cimring met business partner Margo Myers through their teenage daughters. Cimring ha...

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Sports

Hills golfer wins division at Lemoore Junior Open

Sophie Siminoff of Los Altos Hills won the girls 15-18 title and finished second overall at the Kyle Simonson-Lemoore Junior Open last week.

The 16-year-old beat Clovis’ Morgan Polley by three strokes at the two-day tournament, held June 13 and 14 at Lemoore Golf Course.

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Community

Free summer concerts on tap Thursdays in Los Altos, Mtn. View

Free summer concerts on tap Thursdays in Los Altos, Mtn. View

Courtesy of the Peelers’ Facebook page
The Peelers, shown here in action, have the distinction of being scheduled to play at both the Los Altos and Mountain View summer concert series.

The warm air will be crackling with the sounds of live music as both Los Altos and Mountain View launch summer...

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Comment

Letters to the Editor

Land purchase is best option for school district

The Los Altos School District Board of Trustees made a decision to pursue the purchase of an additional school site at its June 13 board meeting.

While we are excited about the possibilities for an innovative new school on this site, the purchase i...

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Spiritual Life

Islam's holy month of fasting, prayer and charity ends with joyful holiday

For the more than 1.6 billion Muslims around the world, Ramadan has begun.

Observed the ninth month of the Islamic calendar (this year beginning at sundown June 6 in the U.S. – dates vary slightly by country), Ramadan is a time of fasting, prayer and charitable activities. It is considered on...

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People

DR. BILL B. MAY

DR. BILL B. MAY

September 2, 1935 – June 6, 2016 Los Altos Hills 

Bill Bruce May, beloved husband, father, and grandfather, passed away peacefully at age 80 on June 6th, 2016, with his family at his side. He was born in Sturgis, South Dakota to parents John and Weltha May, and grew up on a ranch outside Stu...

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Schools

Kick, Lead, and Dream marks 10 years of inspiring youth

Kick, Lead, and Dream marks 10 years of inspiring youth

Megan V. Winslow/Town Crier
Campers at the Kick, Lead, and Dream summer camp pile on their coach, bottom, in green shirt. The relationships among campers and their coaches is a special element of the camp, which encourages positivity, leadership and good sportsmanship.

To the casual onlooker, the K...

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Stepping Out

End of 'Autumn'

End of 'Autumn'

Kevin Berne/Special to the Town Crier
Susan Greenhill and Mark Anderson Phillips star in “The Velocity of Autumn.”

TheatreWorks’ regional premiere of “The Velocity of Autumn” is slated to close Sunday at the Mountain View Center for the Performing Arts, 500 Castro St.

Written by Eric Coble, th...

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Obituaries

DR. BILL B. MAY

DR. BILL B. MAY

September 2, 1935 – June 6, 2016 Los Altos Hills 

Bill Bruce May, beloved husband, father, and grandfather, passed away peacefully at age 80 on June 6th, 2016, with his family at his side. He was born in Sturgis, South Dakota to parents John and Weltha May, and grew up on a ranch outside Stu...

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Magazine

Aging Matters: Take preventive steps to avoid slips and falls

Aging Matters: Take preventive steps to avoid slips and falls

Courtesy of silver sneakers
An exercise program like Silver Sneakers Fitness can help seniors with strength, balance and flexibility.

The statistics on seniors who slip and fall are startling. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention:

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Imparting a back-to-school lesson in kindness


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Being kind to others is a valuable virtue to remind children of as they return to school and meet new classmates.

I spent my first 11 years in Mansfield Center, Conn., a sleepy town in the northeastern part of the state. Right before the seventh grade, my family moved to Los Altos and I enrolled in Egan Junior High School.

Junior high was a culture shock. I always felt 10 steps behind. The curriculum was much more difficult than I was used to – I had always been in advanced classes, but I would spend hours doing my homework each night trying to keep up. And it wasn’t just the academics. I remember coming home on the second day of school telling my mom, “I think we bought the wrong clothes.” Everything was different.

Some people were welcoming, though junior high school isn’t usually the most inclusive place. One girl in particular was downright mean. She pulled all the typical junior-high girl tricks – told her friends not to be friends with me, had them move tables if I sat nearby during lunch and made sure I wasn’t invited to her friends’ birthday parties. I distinctly remember a girl I thought I had become friends with tell me, “I wanted to invite you to my birthday party this weekend, but so-and-so said if you were invited she wouldn’t come.” How do you respond to that?

Despite the drama, I made it through junior high relatively unscathed, attended a private high school and then left for college.

Fifteen years later, I was rolling out my mat in a yoga class in San Francisco and heard someone call my name. I looked around and saw her smiling at me – that girl who had been so mean. After class, we made small talk about where we were living and working. I was friendly but left the conversation wondering: Does she remember all the things she did?

A week later, we ran into each other again at the same yoga class. We talked for a bit. I was friendly but wondered what I was doing there.

In the middle of our conversation, she looked me square in the eye and said: “I am really sorry for how I treated you in junior high. I was awful, and you didn’t deserve any of it.”

I felt tears forming in the corner of my eyes as the memories came flooding back – about being new in school, about feeling left behind, about trying to figure out the maze that was Silicon Valley as a seventh-grader who came from a small town in Connecticut. And then I realized something even greater: She had carried that regret with her all these years, and I had not.

Sure, she probably didn’t think about me every day or worry about how her words and actions had affected me. But the way she looked at me that day, and the way she authentically delivered her apology, made me realize that her behavior had left her with regret. In reality, her behavior had affected her far more than it had affected me.

With the new school year approaching, we often focus on how to have a good year academically – how to be organized, finish homework, study for tests and get good grades. We talk less about how to be a person of character – to err on the side of kindness, as author George Saunders spoke of in his commencement speech at Syracuse University last spring. Look it up, and have a conversation about it with your children.

So, this year, instead of simply asking your children how they will have a better school year in terms of school, sports and activities, ask them how they can become a better person. How can they be a person who is inclusive, has good character and treats others with kindness? To whom will they introduce themselves? How will they actively be part of their school community? What can they do when they see someone sitting alone? Which classmates can they make an effort to get to know?

We all have choices. Learning to err on the side of kindness is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children. It is the first step in showing them how to live a life without regret. And that very may well be the most powerful childhood lesson of all.

Ana Homayoun is founder of the Los Altos-based Green Ivy Educational Consulting and author of “The Myth of the Perfect Girl: Helping Our Daughters Find Authentic Success and Happiness in School and Life” (Perigee Trade, 2012). For more information, visit greenivyed.com.

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